Dating - Boos and Booty Calls

Dating – Boos and Booty Calls

Some people believe dating is spending time with one person to decide if there is something long-term worth pursuing. Others believe dating is the act of fooling around with several people with no intent to commit to any of them. Some believe that dating is a necessary act to check out several people in order to filter down to a person of interest. Whether one dates to commit or enjoy no-strings abandonment, dating is usually a process whereby people sniff each other out. The dating season is usually the first step of a relationship unless a couple gets purely physical from the gate. 

I am in the process of dating. I was in a relationship for 17 years so as you will guess, dating is very different from long ago. With so many methods to communicate with people (i.e. video, email, chat, phone, in person), there is no reason that people cannot find a way to bond and stay in touch. People spend weeks online chatting, cooing and giggling; by the time they meet, they fall into bed feeling they already know each other. While hooking up through online means, people are also breaking up using social networks and because of social network posts. It is a fascinating plateau to find a boo and booty call.

No longer is the line, “I was not home to get your message” an excuse to miss an opportunity to communicate with a person of interest. The line will be met with “well, why didn’t you Skype me on your laptop?” or “You could have sent me a Facebook message from your cell” or “you could have plugged in a hot spot to reach me”. No longer is the wrong number or the nondisclosure of a number the method to keep people off your tracks, as they will find you through Google, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, or whatever electronic means is necessary. 

In my novel Ghostwriter, you will read of characters that are dating and characters who want to date. Some are better at it than others are - lol. It’s  a world of shorter bridges so be careful what and who you do. Getting rid of people is no longer as easy as not answering the phone. Choose those boos and booty calls wisely.

Terry Birchwood